Don’t Just Settle

December 15, 2012

Settling is something you do when all options have been exhausted.  But, should you settle on marriage just because your biological clock is ticking and you don’t want to be alone?  Are you settling because all of your friends have settled?

Let me tell you a little secret: no one truly knows what goes on behind closed doors.  You see those happy couples at the restaurant, shopping mall, or sporting activities and think they have it all together.  Do they really?  Is their life really peachy king? I would watch how happy couples seem to be on television and I would say to my husband, “Husband, why can’t we be like that?”  His answer, “That’s on television.”

Am I settling for less?  Are you settling for less?  Ladies, when your man hits you and then tells you he’s sorry repeatedly; are you settling?  Gentlemen, when your woman talks down to you and never has anything nice to say; are you settling?

When you are at work and feel as though you are not making a difference; are you settling?

My problem is, I have a difficult time knowing what it is I truly want out of life sometimes and I often settle for less because it’s all I know.  I do know that I love to write and encourage others, but sometimes get discouraged because I am not famous or have any fancy degrees.  You see, we tend to settle for less all the time because we are stuck in a box.  You have to get outside the box, take a deep breath, and take risks.

My first novel titled:  I Am My Mother’s Daughter was a huge risk for me because I know I am a first time Author and I knew going into it that I would have to do a whole lot of marketing to get the word out.  Is it working for me?  The answer to that question is; I will never know if I don’t at least keep at it.  I have some good people on my side to help me along the way.  There have been a lot of times when I wanted to throw in the towel and pull my e-book off the shelf, but if I did that, I would be settling for less.  You have to work hard to achieve your goals; not only that, winners never quit.  I have to admit, it is real tough.  Tougher than I thought.

If there is something you want to do with your life, go for it.  Know your strengths and your weaknesses by trying different ways of accomplishing your goals.  But, most importantly, don’t settle for less.  As far as I can tell, the majority of successes came into play from many failed attempts.

How can you know if you are settling:

1.  You are not happy.

2.  You once had goals and dreams, but where put on hold for one reason or another.

Listen to your heart, it never lies.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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Staying Afloat

October 27, 2012

Staying Afloat
By Mimi Jenkins
When you think all is lost and not a moment to spare, think about those poor lost souls that have given up…given up on life because they didn’t know how to stay afloat.  Not wearing a life jacket to arm yourself against the dangers of this life can surely take your life away. ..away from your loved ones.
No one knows what you go through, but you and GOD so why not hand it over to HIM?  Why not give HIM a chance?  HE has already given you the life jacket, all you have to do is put it on.  Go ahead save your life, I dare you.  I dare you to be different.  I dare you not to be concerned about what others say about you.  I dare you to care about you.
Don’t fret none precious one, you are not the only one going through with what you are going through.  I can almost guarantee someone is hurting more than you, wanting more than you, needing more than you, seeking more than you, and crying more than you.  You are not alone.  Please stay afloat if not for yourself, do it for your loved ones.  Do it for me.
No one has ever told you they loved you?  Well, GOD loves you and I love you; that’s a start.  No one has ever held you tight.  No one has ever comforted you.  No one has ever been a true friend to you.  All that is OK.  Do not put all your trust in man alone…place it all in one basket, GOD’s basket of goodness.  HE takes care of all problems no matter how big or small.
Love yourself, take care of yourself.  Be who you were meant to be.  If you don’t stay afloat, how can GOD use you?  How can people know how good you could have been?  How could you know how good you could have been?  All is not lost my precious.  It is there for you to take.  So go ahead and grab it.  It’s yours.
Trust that you can do it.  Get yourself off the couch, out of the bed and take a long bubble bath.  Think on things that are within your grasp.  Throw away that depression medication; cancel your doctor’s appointment. There is nothing wrong with you, you are just depressed.  Get up and shake it off.  Remember GOD loves you and I love you.  That’s all you need to hear.
Go ahead, give yourself a hug from GOD, and give yourself a hug from me.  You are appreciated, you are cared for, you are precious, and you are placed on this earth for a purpose.
The life jacket will help you stay afloat.  It is your lifeline to GOD   You are never alone.  Now, take a deep breath and tell me how you feel.  Now, doesn’t it feel good to feel loved and wanted?   You don’t always need to feel and physically touch someone or something to feel the energy of love that is warming your heart. You can feel it deep down inside can’t you?
Is that a smile a see?  I think you finally got it.  Precious, in all the things you do, place the LORD first and foremost.  HE will guide you and direct your paths.  No worries alright.  You have friends.  People actually love you, just let them in.  Let GOD in.  Precious, HE has been knocking at your door way too long.  Open it up and invite him in.  Believe you me; HE will surely always keep you afloat.

Somehow, I am still stuck on this overall bullying thing….I can’t get it out of my head.  I have much concern and love for the young generation of all ages.  It doesn’t matter if your are in elementary school or college; the point it, you are our future.  

First of all when I was in middle school, I was picked on a lot partly because I lived in a house without running water and my mom shopped at yard sales for my clothes.  Now, not just any yard sale I mind you, she chose the ones that were outside of the neighborhood because she didn’t want kids at my school recognizing their clothes on me…well, I must be honest, kids can be cruel to one another. 

The bullying never stopped.  I always got singled out and picked on in just about every grade.  Why?  I don’t know.  I was always a praying child, (never bothered anyone) stayed to myself, and tried so hard not to let the pushing, shoving, and name calling get the best of me.  It was hard, but I managed to escape unscathed and all.  I would get a sickening feeling in my stomach every time I went to school.  I would cry myself to sleep at night.  

What did I do to deserve such cruelty?  Nothing at all…I guess I was pick-able (if that’s a word).None the less, I kept my head up high and constantly talked to GOD while making my way through the not-so-nice girls gathered in the hallway calling me names as I walked to my classes.  Oh, I got called names like, poor, white girl, and so on and so forth.  Why did they call me white girl you ask when I am clearly a woman of color?  Sadly to say, my friends said that was how I acted and talked so…they didn’t want me hanging around because I wasn’t one of them.

 If I felt deep down that I shouldn’t do something, I would not do it; even if it meant I had lose all my friends (so-called-friends) in the process.  No one; I tell you… no one could pressure me to do that which was wrong. Oh yeah, I also got called the name “Miss Goody Too Shoes” because I refused to skip school and smoke pot.  I’m sorry what??? My mom would have whipped me until the sun went down.

It hurt like hell, but I kept moving on and accepted who I was as a child of GOD’s.  I starting hanging around folk that accepted how I talked, walked, and acted.  You see, my mom reared me to respect, love,  and accept who I was…course wavy hair, plump limps with a mahogany skin tone.

Young folks, we can’t change who we are and not everyone will like you no matter what skin color or complexion you are.  You didn’t do anything to deserve what you are going through.  Pray about it and hold your head up high.   

Are you going through this?  Talk to me….We are all different, but in a good way…accept who you are and keep on moving.

This Conclude Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

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Truth Be Told

October 19, 2012

Truth Be Told:

Why is it that folk are afraid to talk about sex around Christians?  Truth Be Told, I have two boys, so I had sex at least twice.

Truth Be Told:

Why is the younger generation so caught up on what other’s think and say about them?

The only ONE you should be concerned about is GOD.  Do not let your peers put fear in you.  Hold your head up high and go on about your business.

Truth Be Told:

What is this cyber bullying about?

Listen, sticks and stones may break your bones, but do not let words get to you so much that you are willing to take your life.  It is not worth it.  You are better than that…you are someone special…you are a child of GOD’s and HE cares.  Revenge is HIS, hand it over to HIM, pray about the situation, and let HIM handle it.

Truth Be Told:

Young ladies, why are you always trying to impress your boyfriend?  If he doesn’t respect you for who you are without wanting something from you; then you are too good for him.  Keep it moving……

Truth Be Told:

Young men, why are you tripping because you cannot find a job despite your many attempts?

Listen, you are not alone.  I know you want to be “the man”, but don’t do anything silly by trying to make “quick” money.  There is nothing “quick” about it.  Keep searching, keep praying, but NEVER give up on yourself.  It takes time, you will get there.

I want to give a shout out to all the young people out there that have not given way to the ways of this world.  I have a son, fresh out of college.  The school promised to help him find a job, family members said they would help him, but guess what; no one came through for him.

Here is what I told him, “Son, I may let you down, your friends, and family may let your down, but GOD will neither leave your nor forsake you.”

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.Image

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