Caregiving requires devotion and compassion.  It is not something you wake up one morning and decide to do.  As you face aging parent(s)/grandparent(s), you can do either one of three things:

  1. Place them in a nursing home
  2. Consult an in-home senior care agency
  3. Do it yourself

Let’s look at all three differently.

Nursing Homes:

Choose wisely because not all nursing homes are created equal.  Make sure you physically, emotionally, and visually check the nursing home out prior to enrolling your aging parent(s)/grandparent(s).  Upon first arrival and you notice it reeks of urine….walk back out the door.  If you find that seniors are just sloped over in a chair outside their room or staring unemotionally out the door or window, there is need for concern.  By no means should you expect your parents(s)/grandparent(s) will be taken care of just because you are told, “We take pride in what we do.” Or “Our seniors get the best care.”  Do a surprise visit and see for yourself if whether or not promises are kept.  Check out all the staff that is going to be involved with your parent(s)/grandparent(s) on a daily basis; get names, numbers, and hours of meal service and baths. 

In-home senior care:

The same goes here; do your research, ask around, and check out local In-home senior care facilities in your neighborhood.  Go on line and see if there have been any complaints.  When you Google, “In-home senior care”, see what facility pops up first and start from there.  There are some good ones and there are some not so good ones.  Most seniors want to be taken care of in the comfort of their own home.  It’s where they live, sleep, eat…..it’s their home.  In some cases, a family member can be designated to take care of the aging parent(s)/grandparent(s).  Check with the laws in your particular state. 

Do it yourself:

So we have come to this…take care of your parent(s)/grandparent(s) yourself.  How do you go about doing it?  There are several ways of doing it.  For me, I had to contact my mom’s Social Service Representative and was sent a list of In-home senior care facilities to work through.   Again, my mom had to designate me as her personal care aide. Check out the attached link to find just about all your answers on elderly care, nursing homes, and any other questions or concerns you may have.  After all, you want the best for your parent(s)/grandparent(s)…you want to be there for them like they were for you…

http://www.usa.gov/Topics/Seniors/Housing.shtml

These opinions are solely mine.  The referenced link attached is to guide you in making your own decision for the needs of your aging parent(s)/grandparent(s).

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of TruthImage

Senior citizens play a very important role in our lives.  One look in their eyes can tell a million stories as to how they survived the great depression, slavery, holocaust, war, losing parents at a young age and having to step up to the plate and rear younger siblings; dropping out of school at a very young age to help support the family, and taking any job they could to make ends meet. 

So why don’t we support them better than we are doing?  Why are they still struggling to pay for medication, food, room, and board?  Why can’t senior citizens be taken care of the way they took care of us?  Senior citizens have more than paid their debt in blood, sweat, and tears to society. 

When my husband and I go grocery shopping at Aldi’s, normally our basket is full, but at as I look over to either my left or right, I see senior citizens with barely anything in their baskets, having to shop only once a month…fixed income…it really saddens my heart.  For those that have not shopped at Aldi’s, a quarter is needed for the shopping carts to release it from its adjoining chain.  Once you return the basket in its designated area, the chain is inserted back into the slot and your quarter pops out.

My husband and I have gotten into the habit of giving the basket with the quarter still inserted to a senior citizen or a new shopper who doesn’t know a quarter needs to be placed in the slot in order to release the basket.  It’s only a quarter.

My question to you is:  What can we do to make their lives a little easier?  I had one idea of starting a prescription drug program; setting up an account at a local bank for senior citizens that would tie into the pharmacy of choice.   It may seem far-fetched, but it’s a start.

Ask yourself this question:  How can I help!

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Senior Care

March 26, 2013

I received some bad news this past Sunday about a neighbor of mine that was gravely ill and was placed in a nursing home due to complications of Gangrene.  It was clearly noted by my neighbor’s facial expression that he did not want to be there and if the doctor did indeed give him a few weeks to live, he wanted to spend it in the comfort of his own home.

What actually made my heart sink was how lost and unattached the senior patients seem to be.  It appeared as if their spirit had left their bodies….truly sad.  I have a 75 year old mom and I know it would truly break her spirit if I placed her in a nursing home.  I know we all lead busy lives, but my thought is this:  If our parents can sacrifice for us, why can’t we do the same for them?

In case you are wondering what gangrene is below is a link from WebMD

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/guide/gangrene-causes-symptoms-treatments

Often times our parents do not let us know what is ailing them at the moment.  Some parents; such as my mom, tend to hold pain inside and deem it as “normal.”  It’s not normal to be in pain.  Look after your parents the way they have looked after you until you were old enough to fly on your own.

Mimi Jenkins

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