I remember waking up one morning and seeing my mom’s face beat to a bloody pulp. She had been out partying when her boyfriend snuck up on her and accused her of cheating. Before she could say anything, he threw her down on the floor, straddled her and beat her senseless. Two of my siblings were present at the time mom was attacked, I can’t remember which two. Word had circulated that a man was physically abusing an older woman. By the time my siblings came to her rescue, she was laying in a pool of blood. Her boyfriend fled the scene. This same man wrestled her to the ground once before and tried to bash her head in with a brick. Josh and I cried for him not to do it. Josh tried to stop him, he was only ten at the time – no match for a grown man.

Get Thee Behind Me will be part of I Am My Mother’s Daughter video – Abuse is abuse no matter how you look at it.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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Marriage is based off of more than just love.  You have to have trust.  If trust is one of the issues you are struggling with, here is what you can do to remedy the situation in all areas of your life.

The old saying, “All men cheat” is not true.  Believe it or not, there are still some decent men out there that are honest.  You must not compare your relationship with that of other family members. When a relative loads their woes on you about reasons why men can’t be trusted, you have to take it with a grain of salt.  Your relationship is not their relationship; not only that, just because it didn’t work for them does not mean it will not work for you.  In essence, you listen to what they have to say while drawing on your own sense of accountability.

Friends are more opinionated.  They will tell you what they would do if they were in your situation, but guess what; they are not in your situation. Advice given doesn’t always have to be taken.

It’s very simple, if you don’t trust, you don’t have much of a marriage because you are constantly wondering where he is when he’s not home on time or didn’t text you back.  If you truly want to drive your man away, keep calling him, keep asking him where he’s been, and keep accusing him of cheating.

This happened to me, constant worries and concerns.  It all stopped when these words were mentioned by him, “Since you are accusing me of cheating, I might as well do it.”

Trust is a five letter word that takes years to build in a relationship.  The question is; will he still be around to wait for you to build it?

It Was The Thing To Do

April 30, 2013

Passing the time away seems like a thing to do, but when you conjure up all the enjoyable things that where considered fun as children, suddenly takes on a whole new meaning in life.  Playing house in the woods with a set of  used plastic pots and pans that were excitedly retrieved from a dumpster was the highlight of my childhood.  Making mud pies and pretending to be all grown up when in reality, it never dawned on me that looking back, I would much rather relive those days.

In those days, it  may seem like a poor life to some, but it was a joyous time for me.  I didn’t have a lot growing up, but somehow seemed to appreciate whatever toy or trinket my mom gave me.  It was the very thought of having something to play with…it didn’t matter where it was from.

From doing chores washing my own clothes in a ringer washing machine, I was still obedient and was a very well mannered little girl, but often found solace in my room as a means of escaping the crowd.  Crowds…never too good around them…never found any interest to be a part of the adult world unless I was playing house in the woods with my used set of plastic pots and pans.

Those pots and pans, oh how I wish I had them – while the sound of rain bounced off the roof of the house that often sent me scouring around for a pot or bucket to capture water from the leaky roof, it appeared to be normal.  I looked normal,  I had dolls,  pretty clothes like any other girl; even though they were often bought at a yard sale.

It was at a yard sale that I lost my one dollar bill I was given to purchase a couple more trinkets. Seeking to be my own person, I would often pretend to be someone I wasn’t…maybe deep inside, I wanted to escape, but didn’t know how.

I didn’t know how  to escape so I would pretend I was driving and my car went off a cliff while rolling down the grassy slopes – screaming from the top of my lungs.   Not considering the bites from bugs or the ticks that had made themselves home in my flesh.  I read how you can get lime disease from tick bites.  

Reading was what lost me in the world of day dreams.  Oh to be the lady in the book.  It was a way to build a man according to my likeness.  We all want our husbands to have some of the qualities of our dad, but unfortunately, I never got to know my dad.  

Not having a dad in life, I would often lose myself in a world of make believe, it was a way to shut out all the was real.  Seeking higher ground and to be that which every one wanted me to be was and untruthful spirit of who I didn’t want to be.  

The truth would later open my eyes to watching my older siblings have the time of their lives while I was often left home alone due to my lack of social skills.  Desiring all that could enter into an already thoughtless situation often left me questionable and scared in the dark.

The dark was not my friend.  I heard that all undesirable things happen in the dark and I didn’t dare turn my lights off.

Lighting the way to understanding and finding out my purpose was what lead me to make friends with the ones no one liked.  It Was The Thing To Do.

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The Needs of a Woman

December 26, 2012

A WOMAN NEEDS TO:

  • Love herself
  • Respect herself
  • Appreciate herself
  • Forgive herself
  • Trust herself
  • Take a good look at herself
  • Take care of herself

A WOMAN DESERVES TO BE:

  • Loved
  • Respected
  • Appreciated
  • Forgiven
  • Trusted
  • Told she is beautiful on her worse days
  • Taken care of

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

 

 

Waiting is something no one likes to do.  You wait in line to dine…you wait in line to see a movie…you wait at the stop light until it turns green…you wait patiently for people to cross the street.  You wait for that promotion that was promised to you and never got.  It seems as if we have  to wait for ever and a day!  When does it stop? 

The answer is ‘never’ because negativity breeds more negativity and in order to get it out of our system, we have to surround ourselves with positive people, positive words, positive thinking, and positive things.  Positiveness has to become a part of how you choose to live your life. 

Not wanting to wait patiently could cause so much frustration not only in you life, but in other lives as well.  It affects the people around you.  So, how do you change from a negative attitude to a positive attitude?

  1. Choose to do so.
  2. Stay away from strife.
  3. If someone comes to you with gossip, quickly change the subject or simply say, “I don’t gossip.”  I say this all the time and it lets people know right off the bat where I stand.
  4. Change your friends.
  5. Change your normal hang out spot.
  6. If someone speaks negative about a person, say something positive about that person.  Never give a gossiper something to talk about…after all, that’s what they do best.
  7. If you are at work, have lunch by yourself.
  8. Written words to always live by, “Slow to get angry, slow to speak, and quick to listen.”

I have been in situations where two people are feuding and each one will come to me about what the other said.  I quickly tell them to pray about it.  I have been there and done that and it is not fun taking sides.  I have learned the hard way to stay out of it because whatever comes out of your mouth will be used against you in the worse way.

Once you get this positive thing down, you will learn how to wait more patiently.

This concluded Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

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Trust

November 3, 2012

Trust is an issue that can and have ruined marriages, friendships, and relationships with family.  I had a difficult time with trusting people.  I think it was because while growing up, within my environment, there was always an issue with trust.  He cheated on her, she cheated on him…to be honest, that was all I saw….mistrust…among family and friends.

Trust is something that if you don’t have, will take its toll on your relationship (s) in a huge way.  I honestly think my lack of trust was because I did not have confidence in myself.  I was insecure and didn’t think I had what it took to make it in this world.  I was so full of doubt and stayed bitter all the time, because I trusted not one person.  I would always compare myself to other women and wonder am I pretty enough, am I thin enough…you get the picture.

In Proverbs (KJV) 3:5-6 Reads the following:

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not in unto thine own understanding. In all thy way acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Whenever we doubt ourselves and think no one loves us, GOD does.  You can turn your mistrust into trusting by simply saying these words:

  1. I am a child of God’s
  2. I trust Him
  3. I am beautiful/handsome
  4. I am special
  5. I believe in myself
  6. I have confidence
  7. I am loved
  8. I am needed
  9. I can do all things in Christ which strengthens me
  10. I love “me”

Constantly speak something positive about yourself on a daily basis.  And, to that person  you are comparing yourself to, give him/her a compliment.  Trust me, it will make you feel a whole lot better about yourself

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

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