My book Get Thee Behind Me is a non-fiction book in the making.  It details the cycles of abusive relationships, infidelity, and separation of family.  In a world so divided…so are families.  Witnessing my mom being beat in the head with a brick…she survived, forcefully thrown on the floor and breaking her leg as she lie on my bedroom floor in agony…she survived, going to jail for a crime she didn’t commit, but my brother did in order to save her life…she survived.  All my sisters have been in similar situations…they survived.  These and more stories will come to life in my book.

This is why the book I am currently writing is important to me.  It is near and dear to my heart and those that have been through or are going through the same cycles of abuse.  It has to stop and it starts with you.  Be a survivor and know when to get out of an abusive relationship.  There is no shame, but if you stay in the relationship, you only have yourself to blame.

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Moment of Truth

March 1, 2015

Being married for 25 years, I often get asked the question:

How did you manage to stay together this long?    Marriage involves compromises…a lot!  You have to give a lot and get a little.  There are going to be lots of disagreements that may lead to heated arguments, but if you are married and have never had an argument…lucky you.  You will go through trials and tribulations together and separately…this should make you stronger – if it doesn’t, don’t question it – seek help from a much Higher Authority.

Never take advice from other people, whether they are married or not…draw upon your own experience and learn to trust each other.  My husband and I have gone through a lot together, but through it all, we have managed to keep our marriage together.  Yes, people will try to manipulate, disrupt, and intervene….people will lie on you, talk about you, and will stop at nothing to make your lives a living hell.  It’s up to you.  Do you believe everything you hear?  Jump to conclusions…each other’s throats?  Do you get mad at each other and stop speaking for a couple of days?  Or, do you discuss it?  Admit you were wrong and try to mend things?

I was given bad advice….NEVER AGAIN!  You see, when you are given advice – take it – and it backfires…Do you know what you will hear from the one giving the advice?  “You didn’t have to take my advice.”  Lesson learned.

There are a lot of couples that have been married longer than my husband and me and there are some that are just starting out.  For the most part, don’t wear your feelings on your sleeves – don’t take anything too personal.

Please don’t give up too quick on each other.  As I mentioned earlier, sometimes you have to seek a Higher Power.  The idea is to be united as “one” not “two”.  Get your priorities straight by placing God first, family second, and everything else will fall in place according to God’s will and purpose for your life.

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Depression is something I think we all go through, but it’s how we handle it that can make a huge difference.

When I was at my lowest, I thought no one cared or loved me even though I had a husband, mom, children, and siblings.  I always felt lonely.  I couldn’t for the life of me figure out my purpose in life.  My questions were:

Why am I here?

What am I supposed to do with my life?

How am I going to pay off my student loan?

Why am I always looked over for promotion?

Why am I always so bitter and angry?

Why do I feel so lost?

Honestly, I had no answer.  In order for someone to love me, I have to love myself. (that was the first step, learning to love myself).  Second, I had to realize not everyone is going to like me….there are going to be doors shut in my face and not everyone is going to be nice to me. Third,  I had to learn to forgive and forget others that have wronged me (not so easy to accomplish).

No one in my family knew of my depression or noticed any signs because I was careful not to show it around loved ones.  When a person starts saying words such as, “I wish I was dead” or “I wish I had never been born”; those are words of concern.

How I beat depression:

1.  I looked in the mirror at myself and declared the fact that I am loved by my Heavenly Father…now, you may not be a Christian, that’s fine….but know that you are loved no matter what others may think or feel negative towards you.

2. You have a purpose.  By not having a professional title in front of your name does not mean you are any less important.

3.  Learn to forgive yourself and others.

4.  Always remember, you are not alone….reach out to others that are hurting.  Helping people that are depressed can and will help you through your problems.  You may realize what you are going through is nothing compared to someone else.

5.  You are unique – that’s what makes you special

6.  STOP worrying so much – worrying leads to depression.  Solution:  Write all your problems on a piece of paper, toss it in the fire, and put it all behind you.  Let Go and Let God or just simply let go…..

Please find someone you can talk to and a shoulder you can cry on – it’s important to get it all out of your system.

I may not have covered all options here and I understand everyone’s situation is different, but you get the picture…..No one’s perfect!

YOU ARE STRONGER THAN DEPRESSION

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Recently, I was asked this question:  Are you living your life to the fullest?

My initial response was, “I don’t know.”

You see, I haven’t given it much thought until recently.  I immediately came up with a list of the things I have such as:

  • shelter
  • A car
  • A part-time job (keeps the bill collectors off my back)
  • My mom
  • Siblings
  • Running water (one of the many things we take advantage of)
  • Food
  • Clothes
  • Spouse
  • Kids
  • Etc.

Then I started thinking of the things I don’t have:

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You notice there is nothing listed.  I drew a complete blank.  That’s when it hit me.   I have more than some and less than most, but I am living…..it may not be completely to the fullest…..I’m breathing!  I have goals!  I am inspired!

Sometimes, we think we know what we want; GOD knows what we need.  What I have found out is; if HE wants you to move outside of your comfort zone, HE will stop at nothing to guide you according to HIS plan and purpose for your life.  When it is your time for prosperity…your season to shine…GOD will let you know in more ways than one.

You can never judge a person by his/her fancy car, nice home, career, or care free life style because you don’t know what he/she went through to get where they are today.  It reminds of the song by Mary – Mary, “The GOD in me.”  You don’t know how much they prayed, gave, or had to give up to live the lifestyle they are currently living.

When I see someone living their life to the fullest (or so it may seem), I say to myself, “If they can do it, so can I.”

It motivates and inspires me to keep travelling the straight and narrow path.  With a lot of obedience and hard work, we can all live life to the fullest!  But, you have to want it!

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Senior Care

March 26, 2013

I received some bad news this past Sunday about a neighbor of mine that was gravely ill and was placed in a nursing home due to complications of Gangrene.  It was clearly noted by my neighbor’s facial expression that he did not want to be there and if the doctor did indeed give him a few weeks to live, he wanted to spend it in the comfort of his own home.

What actually made my heart sink was how lost and unattached the senior patients seem to be.  It appeared as if their spirit had left their bodies….truly sad.  I have a 75 year old mom and I know it would truly break her spirit if I placed her in a nursing home.  I know we all lead busy lives, but my thought is this:  If our parents can sacrifice for us, why can’t we do the same for them?

In case you are wondering what gangrene is below is a link from WebMD

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/guide/gangrene-causes-symptoms-treatments

Often times our parents do not let us know what is ailing them at the moment.  Some parents; such as my mom, tend to hold pain inside and deem it as “normal.”  It’s not normal to be in pain.  Look after your parents the way they have looked after you until you were old enough to fly on your own.

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I am going to start my day off with thanking God for waking me up this morning.  I have learned a lot by listening to God, reading the Bible, and praying.  For one, I have learned biblically to be slow to get angry, slow to speak, and quick to listen.  Now, you may think it doesn’t make sense, but in actuality, it does.  I used to shoot off at the mouth all the time…listening to words of other people.  It got me in a lot of trouble.  Now, I seriously think before I open up my mouth and I do not jump to conclusions anymore.  If I am told something negative about someone, I wait a day or so before I respond; whereas, in the past, I would assume the person throwing all the negative punches knew what he/she was talking about.  That landed me in the middle of a lot of, “He said, she said,” conflicts.

It is always best to let things settle down before giving an answer.  And can I tell you that your loved ones can be the worse non-truth tellers.  Your loved ones, the ones you do the most for end up hurting you more than anyone else.  I don’t know why this is….I do not know why we have to lie in order to hurt another person…why we get mad at one person and talk bad about the other person…knowing full well that sooner or later, the person you were talking ‘bad’ about is going to get back to him or her.  It doesn’t make sense to put people against one another with lies.

Another thing I have learned; I can’t make anyone love me, read the Bible, pray, or do any other Christian thing.  I cannot force anyone to do or say anything that is not in their hearts to do so.  On the other hand, I do not think a person should do things or say things, just to satisfy another person because it makes for a miserable life.  You should do and say things simply because you want to do and say them…because it comes from the heart.

One more thing; if you have a goal in mind…if you have been called to do it….if it is your God given gift…do not, I repeat DO NOT let someone talk you out of it.  Has it ever dawned on you that maybe, just maybe that person does not want you to succeed.  They can think of a thousand and one reasons why you shouldn’t
 go for your dream job, career change, new relationship, and home purchase….anything negative to keep you from doing better.  Oh yes, I am going there…some folks like to hold you back…they like hearing you complaining about what is wrong in your life and they don’t mind giving you suggestions.  It gives them something to talk about.

Well, I have one suggestion for you.  Learn who is holding you back and who wants you to succeed.

  • Who are your friends
  • Are your friends adding to your life or sucking the life out of you
  • Do you often get encouragement from family members and/or friends
  • Are you still stuck in the same situation you were years ago
  • Are you often going to the same people for advice; telling them everything that goes on behind closed doors.  STOP

When you tell everything that goes on behind closed doors, you are giving people permission to crash your life.

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Waiting is something no one likes to do.  You wait in line to dine…you wait in line to see a movie…you wait at the stop light until it turns green…you wait patiently for people to cross the street.  You wait for that promotion that was promised to you and never got.  It seems as if we have  to wait for ever and a day!  When does it stop? 

The answer is ‘never’ because negativity breeds more negativity and in order to get it out of our system, we have to surround ourselves with positive people, positive words, positive thinking, and positive things.  Positiveness has to become a part of how you choose to live your life. 

Not wanting to wait patiently could cause so much frustration not only in you life, but in other lives as well.  It affects the people around you.  So, how do you change from a negative attitude to a positive attitude?

  1. Choose to do so.
  2. Stay away from strife.
  3. If someone comes to you with gossip, quickly change the subject or simply say, “I don’t gossip.”  I say this all the time and it lets people know right off the bat where I stand.
  4. Change your friends.
  5. Change your normal hang out spot.
  6. If someone speaks negative about a person, say something positive about that person.  Never give a gossiper something to talk about…after all, that’s what they do best.
  7. If you are at work, have lunch by yourself.
  8. Written words to always live by, “Slow to get angry, slow to speak, and quick to listen.”

I have been in situations where two people are feuding and each one will come to me about what the other said.  I quickly tell them to pray about it.  I have been there and done that and it is not fun taking sides.  I have learned the hard way to stay out of it because whatever comes out of your mouth will be used against you in the worse way.

Once you get this positive thing down, you will learn how to wait more patiently.

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