I remember waking up one morning and seeing my mom’s face beat to a bloody pulp. She had been out partying when her boyfriend snuck up on her and accused her of cheating. Before she could say anything, he threw her down on the floor, straddled her and beat her senseless. Two of my siblings were present at the time mom was attacked, I can’t remember which two. Word had circulated that a man was physically abusing an older woman. By the time my siblings came to her rescue, she was laying in a pool of blood. Her boyfriend fled the scene. This same man wrestled her to the ground once before and tried to bash her head in with a brick. Josh and I cried for him not to do it. Josh tried to stop him, he was only ten at the time – no match for a grown man.

Get Thee Behind Me will be part of I Am My Mother’s Daughter video – Abuse is abuse no matter how you look at it.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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My Learning Experience:

  1. Never take action right away – let it play out
  2. Never jump to conclusions
  3. Think before you speak
  4. Keep your mouth to yourself
  5. Do not believe what other people say
  6. Do not take offense easily
  7. Ignore all stupidity
  8. You only have control over yourself; no one else
  9. Do not be a chameleon (changeable person)
  10. Stand firm!

You see, the whole time, I have been listening to words of negativity against other people.  I have been lead to believe a lot of things, but in reality, I was told words to tickle my ear.  If it’s one thing that gets deep under my skin is when people promise not to do or to do and then renege.  All of a sudden they can see clearly now.  It doesn’t matter about the ones that got stepped on during this mumbo jumbo nonsense.  It doesn’t matter whose feelings were hurt in the process.  I now know that people will say and do whatever it takes to get to the thing or person they so desire to have or be with;especially the ones you hold near and dear to your heart.

A man will say, “I love you”, just for some nooky.

A woman will promise her man, “I’ll do anything”, just for money or some material artifact.

It all boils down to choices in life.  You will face some manipulative people in your life time, some family, some friends, co-workers, or significant other(s).  Learn how to decipher fiction from fact.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins Moment of Truth

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Don’t Just Settle

December 15, 2012

Settling is something you do when all options have been exhausted.  But, should you settle on marriage just because your biological clock is ticking and you don’t want to be alone?  Are you settling because all of your friends have settled?

Let me tell you a little secret: no one truly knows what goes on behind closed doors.  You see those happy couples at the restaurant, shopping mall, or sporting activities and think they have it all together.  Do they really?  Is their life really peachy king? I would watch how happy couples seem to be on television and I would say to my husband, “Husband, why can’t we be like that?”  His answer, “That’s on television.”

Am I settling for less?  Are you settling for less?  Ladies, when your man hits you and then tells you he’s sorry repeatedly; are you settling?  Gentlemen, when your woman talks down to you and never has anything nice to say; are you settling?

When you are at work and feel as though you are not making a difference; are you settling?

My problem is, I have a difficult time knowing what it is I truly want out of life sometimes and I often settle for less because it’s all I know.  I do know that I love to write and encourage others, but sometimes get discouraged because I am not famous or have any fancy degrees.  You see, we tend to settle for less all the time because we are stuck in a box.  You have to get outside the box, take a deep breath, and take risks.

My first novel titled:  I Am My Mother’s Daughter was a huge risk for me because I know I am a first time Author and I knew going into it that I would have to do a whole lot of marketing to get the word out.  Is it working for me?  The answer to that question is; I will never know if I don’t at least keep at it.  I have some good people on my side to help me along the way.  There have been a lot of times when I wanted to throw in the towel and pull my e-book off the shelf, but if I did that, I would be settling for less.  You have to work hard to achieve your goals; not only that, winners never quit.  I have to admit, it is real tough.  Tougher than I thought.

If there is something you want to do with your life, go for it.  Know your strengths and your weaknesses by trying different ways of accomplishing your goals.  But, most importantly, don’t settle for less.  As far as I can tell, the majority of successes came into play from many failed attempts.

How can you know if you are settling:

1.  You are not happy.

2.  You once had goals and dreams, but where put on hold for one reason or another.

Listen to your heart, it never lies.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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Trust

November 3, 2012

Trust is an issue that can and have ruined marriages, friendships, and relationships with family.  I had a difficult time with trusting people.  I think it was because while growing up, within my environment, there was always an issue with trust.  He cheated on her, she cheated on him…to be honest, that was all I saw….mistrust…among family and friends.

Trust is something that if you don’t have, will take its toll on your relationship (s) in a huge way.  I honestly think my lack of trust was because I did not have confidence in myself.  I was insecure and didn’t think I had what it took to make it in this world.  I was so full of doubt and stayed bitter all the time, because I trusted not one person.  I would always compare myself to other women and wonder am I pretty enough, am I thin enough…you get the picture.

In Proverbs (KJV) 3:5-6 Reads the following:

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not in unto thine own understanding. In all thy way acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Whenever we doubt ourselves and think no one loves us, GOD does.  You can turn your mistrust into trusting by simply saying these words:

  1. I am a child of God’s
  2. I trust Him
  3. I am beautiful/handsome
  4. I am special
  5. I believe in myself
  6. I have confidence
  7. I am loved
  8. I am needed
  9. I can do all things in Christ which strengthens me
  10. I love “me”

Constantly speak something positive about yourself on a daily basis.  And, to that person  you are comparing yourself to, give him/her a compliment.  Trust me, it will make you feel a whole lot better about yourself

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

Staying Afloat

October 27, 2012

Staying Afloat
By Mimi Jenkins
When you think all is lost and not a moment to spare, think about those poor lost souls that have given up…given up on life because they didn’t know how to stay afloat.  Not wearing a life jacket to arm yourself against the dangers of this life can surely take your life away. ..away from your loved ones.
No one knows what you go through, but you and GOD so why not hand it over to HIM?  Why not give HIM a chance?  HE has already given you the life jacket, all you have to do is put it on.  Go ahead save your life, I dare you.  I dare you to be different.  I dare you not to be concerned about what others say about you.  I dare you to care about you.
Don’t fret none precious one, you are not the only one going through with what you are going through.  I can almost guarantee someone is hurting more than you, wanting more than you, needing more than you, seeking more than you, and crying more than you.  You are not alone.  Please stay afloat if not for yourself, do it for your loved ones.  Do it for me.
No one has ever told you they loved you?  Well, GOD loves you and I love you; that’s a start.  No one has ever held you tight.  No one has ever comforted you.  No one has ever been a true friend to you.  All that is OK.  Do not put all your trust in man alone…place it all in one basket, GOD’s basket of goodness.  HE takes care of all problems no matter how big or small.
Love yourself, take care of yourself.  Be who you were meant to be.  If you don’t stay afloat, how can GOD use you?  How can people know how good you could have been?  How could you know how good you could have been?  All is not lost my precious.  It is there for you to take.  So go ahead and grab it.  It’s yours.
Trust that you can do it.  Get yourself off the couch, out of the bed and take a long bubble bath.  Think on things that are within your grasp.  Throw away that depression medication; cancel your doctor’s appointment. There is nothing wrong with you, you are just depressed.  Get up and shake it off.  Remember GOD loves you and I love you.  That’s all you need to hear.
Go ahead, give yourself a hug from GOD, and give yourself a hug from me.  You are appreciated, you are cared for, you are precious, and you are placed on this earth for a purpose.
The life jacket will help you stay afloat.  It is your lifeline to GOD   You are never alone.  Now, take a deep breath and tell me how you feel.  Now, doesn’t it feel good to feel loved and wanted?   You don’t always need to feel and physically touch someone or something to feel the energy of love that is warming your heart. You can feel it deep down inside can’t you?
Is that a smile a see?  I think you finally got it.  Precious, in all the things you do, place the LORD first and foremost.  HE will guide you and direct your paths.  No worries alright.  You have friends.  People actually love you, just let them in.  Let GOD in.  Precious, HE has been knocking at your door way too long.  Open it up and invite him in.  Believe you me; HE will surely always keep you afloat.

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