I am going to start my day off with thanking God for waking me up this morning.  I have learned a lot by listening to God, reading the Bible, and praying.  For one, I have learned biblically to be slow to get angry, slow to speak, and quick to listen.  Now, you may think it doesn’t make sense, but in actuality, it does.  I used to shoot off at the mouth all the time…listening to words of other people.  It got me in a lot of trouble.  Now, I seriously think before I open up my mouth and I do not jump to conclusions anymore.  If I am told something negative about someone, I wait a day or so before I respond; whereas, in the past, I would assume the person throwing all the negative punches knew what he/she was talking about.  That landed me in the middle of a lot of, “He said, she said,” conflicts.

It is always best to let things settle down before giving an answer.  And can I tell you that your loved ones can be the worse non-truth tellers.  Your loved ones, the ones you do the most for end up hurting you more than anyone else.  I don’t know why this is….I do not know why we have to lie in order to hurt another person…why we get mad at one person and talk bad about the other person…knowing full well that sooner or later, the person you were talking ‘bad’ about is going to get back to him or her.  It doesn’t make sense to put people against one another with lies.

Another thing I have learned; I can’t make anyone love me, read the Bible, pray, or do any other Christian thing.  I cannot force anyone to do or say anything that is not in their hearts to do so.  On the other hand, I do not think a person should do things or say things, just to satisfy another person because it makes for a miserable life.  You should do and say things simply because you want to do and say them…because it comes from the heart.

One more thing; if you have a goal in mind…if you have been called to do it….if it is your God given gift…do not, I repeat DO NOT let someone talk you out of it.  Has it ever dawned on you that maybe, just maybe that person does not want you to succeed.  They can think of a thousand and one reasons why you shouldn’t
 go for your dream job, career change, new relationship, and home purchase….anything negative to keep you from doing better.  Oh yes, I am going there…some folks like to hold you back…they like hearing you complaining about what is wrong in your life and they don’t mind giving you suggestions.  It gives them something to talk about.

Well, I have one suggestion for you.  Learn who is holding you back and who wants you to succeed.

  • Who are your friends
  • Are your friends adding to your life or sucking the life out of you
  • Do you often get encouragement from family members and/or friends
  • Are you still stuck in the same situation you were years ago
  • Are you often going to the same people for advice; telling them everything that goes on behind closed doors.  STOP

When you tell everything that goes on behind closed doors, you are giving people permission to crash your life.

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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My Learning Experience:

  1. Never take action right away – let it play out
  2. Never jump to conclusions
  3. Think before you speak
  4. Keep your mouth to yourself
  5. Do not believe what other people say
  6. Do not take offense easily
  7. Ignore all stupidity
  8. You only have control over yourself; no one else
  9. Do not be a chameleon (changeable person)
  10. Stand firm!

You see, the whole time, I have been listening to words of negativity against other people.  I have been lead to believe a lot of things, but in reality, I was told words to tickle my ear.  If it’s one thing that gets deep under my skin is when people promise not to do or to do and then renege.  All of a sudden they can see clearly now.  It doesn’t matter about the ones that got stepped on during this mumbo jumbo nonsense.  It doesn’t matter whose feelings were hurt in the process.  I now know that people will say and do whatever it takes to get to the thing or person they so desire to have or be with;especially the ones you hold near and dear to your heart.

A man will say, “I love you”, just for some nooky.

A woman will promise her man, “I’ll do anything”, just for money or some material artifact.

It all boils down to choices in life.  You will face some manipulative people in your life time, some family, some friends, co-workers, or significant other(s).  Learn how to decipher fiction from fact.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins Moment of Truth

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Are You Focused

January 7, 2013

As I look back over year 2012, I wonder if I have accomplished or at least attempted to put myself out there and be all I could have been by asking myself the following questions:

1. Did I slack in any areas?

2.  Did I work to my full potential towards my goals and dreams?

3.  Do I have any regrets?

Did I slack in any areas?

I think so, at least in the beginning.  You see, a lot of times we think we want something when in reality, we don’t.  We all need money to survive, but will it make us happy or fulfill our every aspect in life?  I have mentioned in a previous blog to go for what you want in life and do what makes you happy as long as it aligns with God’s will.  Sometimes, we tend to miss what we already have right under our noses.  That being said, I love writing and I will continue to write, but I will do so in an inspiring fashion.  There are lots of books and gurus that can tell you how to live your life, but in the end, it is all up to you.  How do you really perceive life?  Could you have done more things to accomplish your dreams?  If so, what you doing about it now?

Did I work to full potential towards my goals and dreams?

Towards the end I did.  You see, it is easy to say, “I want to be a writer.”  What was I doing to pursue my goals?  Did I sit back and wish for it?  Or did I, little by little, start focusing on how I can become a better writer.  What do I need to do in order to get my name out there?  Did I get disappointed every time I viewed my book and didn’t see any reviews?  Of course I did.  But, it only motivated me to keep pressing forward.  It also motivated me to reach out and seek others that I can encourage and uplift who are in my same shoes.  By me giving, I will be able to receive the gifts that God has placed before me.  I have connected with the right people who not only care about their writing, but are willing to help.  It is very important to surround yourself with like-minded people.

Do I have any regrets?

The only regret I have is not pursuing  my goals a lot earlier.  If you have a gift, use it before you lose it.  It took me a while to find my writing voice.  I knew what I wanted to write about and who I wanted to reach out to, it’s just putting those thoughts from pen to paper or from fingers to computer.

Live your life the way God intended you to.  When my mind is in a fog, I refer to Proverbs, 3:5-6 and Psalm 23.

Happy New Year Everyone!

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

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The Needs of a Woman

December 26, 2012

A WOMAN NEEDS TO:

  • Love herself
  • Respect herself
  • Appreciate herself
  • Forgive herself
  • Trust herself
  • Take a good look at herself
  • Take care of herself

A WOMAN DESERVES TO BE:

  • Loved
  • Respected
  • Appreciated
  • Forgiven
  • Trusted
  • Told she is beautiful on her worse days
  • Taken care of

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

 

 

Don’t Just Settle

December 15, 2012

Settling is something you do when all options have been exhausted.  But, should you settle on marriage just because your biological clock is ticking and you don’t want to be alone?  Are you settling because all of your friends have settled?

Let me tell you a little secret: no one truly knows what goes on behind closed doors.  You see those happy couples at the restaurant, shopping mall, or sporting activities and think they have it all together.  Do they really?  Is their life really peachy king? I would watch how happy couples seem to be on television and I would say to my husband, “Husband, why can’t we be like that?”  His answer, “That’s on television.”

Am I settling for less?  Are you settling for less?  Ladies, when your man hits you and then tells you he’s sorry repeatedly; are you settling?  Gentlemen, when your woman talks down to you and never has anything nice to say; are you settling?

When you are at work and feel as though you are not making a difference; are you settling?

My problem is, I have a difficult time knowing what it is I truly want out of life sometimes and I often settle for less because it’s all I know.  I do know that I love to write and encourage others, but sometimes get discouraged because I am not famous or have any fancy degrees.  You see, we tend to settle for less all the time because we are stuck in a box.  You have to get outside the box, take a deep breath, and take risks.

My first novel titled:  I Am My Mother’s Daughter was a huge risk for me because I know I am a first time Author and I knew going into it that I would have to do a whole lot of marketing to get the word out.  Is it working for me?  The answer to that question is; I will never know if I don’t at least keep at it.  I have some good people on my side to help me along the way.  There have been a lot of times when I wanted to throw in the towel and pull my e-book off the shelf, but if I did that, I would be settling for less.  You have to work hard to achieve your goals; not only that, winners never quit.  I have to admit, it is real tough.  Tougher than I thought.

If there is something you want to do with your life, go for it.  Know your strengths and your weaknesses by trying different ways of accomplishing your goals.  But, most importantly, don’t settle for less.  As far as I can tell, the majority of successes came into play from many failed attempts.

How can you know if you are settling:

1.  You are not happy.

2.  You once had goals and dreams, but where put on hold for one reason or another.

Listen to your heart, it never lies.

This concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth

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Are You a Dreamer or a Doer

December 2, 2012

Today has been one of those days where I think back on how would my life be if I had done things a little differently; especially when it comes to my career.  I am undecided on pretty much every aspect of my life at times.  I am a Cardinal Air Sign which I took to mean, ‘My mind is constantly changing (indecisive).’  Normally, I don’t particularly view zodiac signs, but somehow, I knew something was confusing to me in a sense that I am drawn to a career in which I can fully spread my wings.  I actually enjoy being my own boss and did not realize that until I read my zodiac sign.  It does me no good to be cooped up in a cubicle and feeling like I am not contributing in way, shape, or form.

Do you ever feel as if you are in a box and you can’t get out of it?  You have tried all sorts of things, but failed miserably at it.  The whole time this is happening to me, I am always thinking, “What am I good at?  What gifts did God give me?”

My problem has always been knowing what I want, but afraid to take a chance.  Yep, I’m a dreamer.  How am I ever going to know if I am good at something if I don’t at least try.  Life is too short and I am not getting any younger.  It is about time I go for what I want.  I thank God everyday for the jobs I have had and the one I have currently, but something is missing.  I need to spread my wings and be who God intended me to be and stop trying to be something I am clearly not.

I have turned career choices down simply because I was afraid to take an exam or afraid to fly.  I am stopping myself from succeeding.  I am getting in the way of myself.

Have you ever wanted to go for something and was afraid of what people will say or that you may fail at it?

Isn’t it written in the Bible that God will guide us along the best pathway of our life; He will neither leave us nor forsake us..so why am I feeling like I don’t have a chance?

It is like I said, I am getting in the way of myself and I have no one else to blame but myself.  You too can make a difference; just spread your wings, get outside of the box and live.  Be and do what God intended you to be and do.  Do not get in the way of yourself.  Go ahead, I dare you to be bold.

If you can Dream it, you can Do it!

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This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

Do not let past mistakes determine your future success.  Mistakes are a big part of finding out who you really are and what you can actually do that will make a huge difference not only in your life, but in someone else’s life as well.  It took me years to accept the fact when people criticize me, they are actually doing me a huge favor.  Criticism motivates me to put my best foot forward.  I get the last laugh by not giving up.

This Concludes Mimi Jenkins’ Moment of Truth.

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